Moving book

I just got through reading _If I am Missing or Dead: A Sister's Story of Love, Murder, and Liberation_.

Uhm.  Wow!  I saw myself in this book a time or two (or three).  The author writes of her growing up years with a father that is not so nice.  Then she tells of turbulent young adult hood, complete with rape and a physically abusive boyfriend.  Interspersed in the story of her life she tells of her baby sister's life and subsequent death at the hands of an abuser.  Janine Latus also tells of her emotionally abusive relationship with her husband of many years.  This is where I saw myself.  She brought to mind some of the many times I felt like I had to have sex with my ex in order to not make him mad and not get into an all night argument.  Even then there were still accusations and arguments flung at me no matter the time of day or night.

This book is a must read for anybody embarking on their life.  This story of Janine and her sister, Amy, lets a person know in a non-threatening manner what is NOT normal and acceptable behaviour in a boyfriend or husband.  A person who says they love you should never ever threaten to kill you or any member of your family.  If this is happening to you, get out.  Get out now.  Get help and get out.  You can do it.  You deserve to feel safe in your own home.  Get out before he hurts you again.

(((Hugs))) to all.